Toyin Lawani Reveals How She Lost Her 4th Pregnancy
A Nigerian entrepreneur, Toyin Lawani, sits with Chude Jideonwo, host of #WithChude and founder of Joy, Inc. to share about the loss of her pregnancy, her family and her previous relationship.
"I can’t say I feel relieved but I felt a weight left because I was very worried that my child was still very young. Having a child is not cheap, with the kind of life I live and the best I want to give my kids. And the fact that I don’t have people paying my bills. We work day and night to foot our bills and to live the lifestyle I live. It is painful because every child deserves to come into this world. Plus the fact that I was worried and panicking that I didn't want it. I will not wish to get rid of any child. I was traumatised".
Speaking on why she left home at a young age, she said, "When I was 15, I got raped by one of my uncles. It was so bad for me. I couldn’t tell my mum. Do you know when someone bullies you to the extent that you can’t talk? I opened up to one of my aunties, and she took me to Ibadan. They tried to get rid of the pregnancy, the pregnancy was about five months already because I didn’t tell anyone. It was around that time that I was to get admission to UNILAG. My mum was on the phone asking me why I wasn’t back from the holiday at my grandma’s place, I didn't know what to tell her so I fainted. When she came back, because she was in Hong Kong at that time, the doctor told her. She couldn’t take it because I was so young and because the person was so close to the family. Who I was and where I have been had shaped me into who I am today. I can take a loss and stand up straight in front of you and I won’t show you weakness."
Finally, she responded to the speculations that she uses 'jazz', "My grandma is a regent of Ikoyi, Ikole Ekiti. I grew up in a royal family with the ways and culture. People don’t even know the ways of kings, I have had many people judge me, saying Toyin Lawani does ‘jazz’ because I visit the Osun palace. It is culture, it is their heritage, and you have to embrace it."
Watch the excerpts from the interview here:
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